I’m not exactly a perfectionist, but I do prefer to have things under control and in order to my specifications.
Kerrie at The Daily Headache, offers her thoughts on how it can feel to fall short of your own standards, repeatedly.
Migraine can be so dominating. It is frustrating to get knocked flat and have the things you enjoy taken away from you. There is guilt and anger aplenty. Part of the biofeedback is working to accept myself as I am now, whatever that is, and work with what I have to offer. I am not accustomed to allowing myself limitations, so it has been a difficult path, even though I have been here before. Some years ago I was involved in a fairly serious car wreck and spent a significant amount of time healing.
That event is a major dividing line in my life and accepting those limitations was very difficult. Having someone to blame doesn’t make it any easier, it may make it worse actually. Learning to accept help was equally challenging. I like my independance. 🙂 But its okay to accept help if you need it.